How to Navigate the Heartbreak of Losing Your Beloved Pet

Brooke Galster-Boston
May 19
4 min read

Losing a pet is deeply painful. Our furry companions are more than just animals; they're family members who fill our lives with joy, love, and countless cherished moments. When they're no longer with us, the emptiness can feel unbearable. This post aims to offer sincere support and practical advice for anyone facing the challenging journey of grieving a pet.

Understanding Grief

Grief is a natural part of losing a pet. You might find yourself feeling a mix of emotions, including sadness, anger, guilt, and confusion. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to grief; each person's experience is different.

In recent studies, nearly 70% of pet owners report experiencing intense grief after the loss of their pet, indicating just how common these feelings are. Your grief is real and valid. Recognizing and accepting your emotions is crucial. Allow yourself to experience them fully, as this step can be essential for healing.

Acknowledge Your Feelings

The first step in managing your grief is to acknowledge how you feel. It's perfectly normal to be upset and to cry, or even feel lost. Ignoring your emotions can extend your grief, making healing harder.

Talking about grief—especially the pain of losing a beloved pet—can be a powerful step toward healing. Research published in the Journal of Loss and Trauma found that individuals who engaged in expressive talking or writing about their grief experienced a 30–40% reduction in depressive symptoms over time. Opening up to a trusted friend, family, professional support, or even writing in a journal can help ease the weight of loss and bring moments of clarity and comfort when emotions feel overwhelming.

Talking about your emotions can help you process them. Although some might find it easier to express your sadness, anger, or happy memories through written words or art. There is no right way to grieve. The objective is to acknowledge and express the wave of emotions that accompany your loss.

Create a Memorial

Creating a memorial for your pet can be a beautiful way to celebrate their life and the bond you shared. Here are a few meaningful ideas:

Photo Album: Compile your favorite pictures and share anecdotes that capture your pet's personality and quirks. For example, if your dog had a favorite toy or a funny habit like rolling over for treats, include those stories.
Memory shrine: If you have your pet's ashes or a paw print mold, you could place a framed picture, their collar or tags, alongside a small candle.
Garden Stone: You might consider placing a stone in your garden or a special space in your home inscribed with your pet's name and a heartfelt message. This can serve as a tranquil reminder of your pet's presence.
Personalized Mug: Having an image of your beloved furry or feathered friend may be a way of keeping the memory of them close at hand.

Seek Support

Remember, you are not alone in your grief. Many understand the pain of losing a pet and can offer support. Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends and family members who have experienced similar losses.

You can also find solace in pet loss support groups, online communities, and dedicated hotlines. These resources can connect you with others who understand your feelings and provide outlets for sharing your grief.

If you find it difficult to cope, talking to a coach or counselor specializing in grief may help you develop strategies to manage your emotions during this challenging time.

Do What Feels Right

Coping with grief is personal; what works for one person might not work for another. It’s important to do what feels right for you. Some individuals may find comfort in keeping their pet's belongings close, donating them, while others might choose to pack them away as part of healing.

Take your time when considering adding a new pet to your family. It’s essential to allow yourself enough time to heal before welcoming another animal friend into your life. Your grief doesn't necessarily end with the welcoming or adopting of another pet.

Remember the Good Times

During this difficult time, reflecting on the joyful moments with your pet can help lift your spirits. Try engaging in activities that remind you of them, like taking a walk on a favorite trail or even a brief visit to a dog park. Revisiting these memories can spark a smile, even amidst sadness.

Prioritize Your Well-Being

Grief isn’t just emotional—it’s physical, too. Losing a pet is a significant stressor, and like any major loss, it can take a real toll on your body. Fatigue, changes in appetite, sleep disturbances, and even a weakened immune response are all common reactions. It’s your body’s way of saying, “This matters.” Grieving is not just something we feel—it’s something we live through, inside and out.

Grief and the practicalities that surround the loss of a pet can be consuming, and it is easy to forget about yourself. During this time, make a conscious effort to take care of your physical, emotional, and mental health. Aim to eat balanced meals, stay hydrated, and ensure you get adequate rest.

Finding Comfort in Memories

Losing a beloved pet can be a painful journey, but your feelings reflect the special bond you shared. It’s healthy to give yourself the time and space to heal while holding onto the love and joy your furry friend brought into your life.

By acknowledging your feelings, seeking support, and prioritizing self-care, you can navigate this difficult journey. Remember to give yourself permission to grieve, and it's okay to ask for help when you need it.

In time, the memories of your pet will bring smiles instead of tears, and your heart will forever cherish their presence.

If you'd like one-on-one support as you process your loss, I’m here to walk alongside you. You can email me at Brooke@CypressCoachingServices.com or call/text 503-217-4147 and leave a message.